Fights over wills provide an appalling insight into the bitterness, anger, and recrimination that can tear families apart. Even when quite small sums are at stake, adult children, ex-spouses, stepchildren and others will stop at nothing. It’s enough to make a person turn in her grave.
A recent report shows why increasing numbers of Australians are challenging wills in court: they’ve a good chance of success. Judges and mediators are able, in effect, to re-write a person’s will. They can even ignore a parent’s written statement that explains why this ingrate daughter or that callous son is to get nothing.
The report called Having the Last Word? is the result of a major investigation under the aegis of the University of Queensland into will-making and contesting wills. (It’s fascinating reading). It found 74 per cent of cases challenged in court resulted in the will being changed, and 87 per cent of those that went before a mediator. No wonder law firms appeal to would-be clients with advertisements that ask “Have you been left out of a will?”
The high level of contesting wills – particularly evident in NSW – can destroy family harmony forever and for generations, and whittle away the estate’s value in costly legal fees. Many of you probably know this. The study found 18 per cent of those involved in a dispute said family relations had been poor before the contents of the will were disclosed but this rose to 26 per cent afterwards. The report’s authors recommend measures to reduce the level of fights over wills. But the lawyers and others consulted were pessimistic.
“Some people have an unhealthy sense of entitlement and don’t respect the wishes of the will maker,” one told them. “You can’t draft documents or legislation to change that.”
Trawling through some cases that went before the NSW Supreme Court in recent years, I was mesmerised by the ghastly family dynamics on display. In one case a woman cut her stepdaughter out of her will, and explained in a statement: “I make no provision in my will for [DM] who claims to be a daughter of my late husband as she has ill-treated both myself and my late husband for many years and has made no attempt to contact or have anything to do with me.”
In this case DM convinced the judge it was her father’s and stepmother’s conduct that had caused the rift. [“My stepmother] is a horrible person,” DM said. “They [shut] the door in my face for 47 years.” She was awarded $75,000. Her legal costs that came out of the estate were $55,000.
In another case two daughters were cut out of their father’s will because, according to the statement he left, “they make no attempt to contact me either by telephone or in person. No cards are sent to me either at Christmas or my birthday…I do not feel obliged in any way to make any provision out of my estate for their benefit.” The daughters were awarded $9,665 and $7,750 because the judge did not believe the father’s complaints were valid. The father’s friend, who was to inherit the small estate, spent $16,500 or 25 per cent of its value, defending the action. This is madness.
It turns out we’re not entirely free to give away the family silver to whomever we want. Our freedom is balanced by laws that allow courts to ensure family members (and others) who fit the criteria are adequately provided for out of the estate.
Irrational and punitive parents and spouses can treat family members unfairly in their will, or come under malign influences. But lawyers such as Lesa Bransgrove, of Bransgroves Lawyers, believe the balance has tilted too far against the will maker. “What we’re seeing is a view in the courts that the responsibility of parents goes beyond the time when children are dependants,” she said.
Judges had expressed a view that the community expected estates could be used to help adult children in retirement if they had no superannuation, provide them with a deposit on a home, or assist with the education of grandchildren.
The Queensland University study found a will is widely regarded as a means to distribute “family money”. Not many Australians leave bequests to charity in their will (Muslims are the exception here); and if they do, charities report court challenges from family members are common. The view of wills as “family money” may be fostering a “sense of entitlement” by family members, and fuelling the challenges, the report says. There’s some evidence “some family members are greedy rather than being in need.”
Professor Linda Rosenman, one of the report’s authors, said: “It’s probably almost impossible to draw up a ‘contest proof’ will. It would be more useful to address the family dynamics at the time of making the will rather than leaving it for the family to ‘fight out’ after death.”
Elder law specialist Rodney Lewis says he didn’t believe it was too easy to contest a will and attributed the high success rate to lawyers having already screened out weak cases. To avoid feuds, Lewis urges will makers to communicate with their family. Where they’re departing from equal distribution – or giving a motza to the dog home – make sure everyone understands the reasons. Writing a statement of explanation is not a total waste of effort in the event of court action, he says. “But any defects in logic or errors of fact will undermine its authority.” So take care.
What’s your experience with wills – and any suggestions for handling disputes? Please comment.
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